#ThirtyThursday: Come out to the Vanilla to Kink Part 2 Conference and Event Oct. 19th

Come out to Vanilla to Kink Part 2 in Albany, NY on Oct. 19th


Watch the video for more information and on how to register for the upcoming event! 


The panelists will discuss many topics ranging from BDSM, Fetish Lifestyle, Kink, Poly relationships, and more!  Blacktopian Adrienne Charleston will moderate the discussion!  Sign up and be there!  You don't want to miss this epic event!

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Reime Schemes new single "Island Flame 2.0" is now available on iTunes, Amazon, and everywhere music is being sold digitally!
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SHARE THE LOVE: How to DATE a MARRIED Couple (by Lea Mishell)

SHARE THE LOVE
How to Date a Married Couple
by Lea Mishell

Hello Loves!! If you've been following along with my journey, thank you. Trust me, it has been QUITE the rollercoaster ride!

Now if you read my previous post, “How to Date a Married Woman”, you may know where I'm going with this. If you didn't, no worries. I'm sure you'll want to go back and read what I'm talking about. 

I've been actively dating outside my marriage for the past few years. Or should I say, I've been available to date. No worries, Ladies. I don't want your husbands, sons or boyfriends. I only date women; YOU might be more my type! As a couple, Hubby and I have had more “success” dating separately but at the moment, we're both poly single. We would love to date a woman together. Married couples can date single people or other married couples. There's a fit for us all. It's just not that simple to find that one person/couple to connect with. Based on our experiences, here's my advice for anyone interested in dating a married couple*.

One Person dating a Married Couple: connecting with both may not be as simple as one on one, however it isn't completely impossible. An individual may connect with one partner on a romantic level and intellectually with their spouse. Down the road, everyone develops romantic feelings for each other. Enjoy the increased love in your life!

Couple dating a Married Couple: I don't have any personal experience to draw from but I have friends that date couples and their beginnings were basically like the start of many relationships. One person met another. There's a connection. If all is done correctly,** everyone knows from DAY ONE of any currently established loves. A married couple may have outside loves that fall for each other simply from their shared experiences with each other. Again, enjoy the increased love in your life!

*Clearly, this advice is for anyone that is already living/considering living an ethical non-monogamous life. I'm not encouraging anyone to step outside their relationships without the knowledge or consent of their current loves. What you do with this information is your choice. I hold no responsibility for your outcome.

**http://www.blacktopia.org/2016/12/share-love-how-to-date-married-woman-by.html 

If you would like to submit a question to SHARE THE LOVE, send an email to BlacktopiaBusiness@gmail.com with SHARE THE LOVE QUESTION in the subject line.


PeaceLoveHappiness
Lm...

Polyamorous and striving to be PERMANENTLY POSITIVE, Lea Mishell is a wife, mother of 3, and an author of urban fairy tales and erotica. Her works can be found at www.leanpub.com/b/TheLeaMishellCollection

SHARE THE LOVE is published exclusively for Blacktopia.org


© 2016-2017 Lea Mishell. All rights reserved.

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Find out more about KARATBARS INTERNATIONAL by contacting Karatbars Affiliate Mulu Berhe by vising her official website at http://www.thegoldenyears.online

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TUNE IN every TUESDAY NIGHT to hear BLACKTOPIA PRESENTS ROUND TABLE TALK RADIO with hosts Barbara the Cuntry Cleaning Lady, Some Guy Named Jay and Adrienne Charleston from 9:00 PM to 11:00 PM EST.

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Share The Love: "Living My Truth" (by Lea Mishell)

SHARE THE LOVE
Living In My Truth
by Lea Mishell

Hello Loves!! First let me say thank you to those of you that have been supporting any and everything I've been doing. Whether it's the lessons interwoven into my books or the journey I've been sharing here in this column, I know I am blessed to help uplift EVERYONE and I want ALL OF US to be happy! As you know, writing is one of my passions so I am thankful for this opportunity to share my love (pun intended lol) with all of you!

One thing I've been adjusting to is being transparent in my non-polyamorous relationships. Prior to my marriage, although my thoughts were polyamorous, my actions were not always the most honorable. On the surface, I looked like your typical heterosexual single mother, doing the best she can without a man of her own. During that time in my life, men were simply a physical release from the stress of my life. Since I covered everything else financially/mentally/socially/spiritually for myself, I didn't want or need a boyfriend when all I needed was sexual maintenance. I wasn't out of the closet yet so no one knew of the occasional lady friend. But I was extremely uncomfortable! Part of me knew that something wasn't right! Why wasn't I happy with my many loves? Because they were my secrets and, for some, I was their side piece. It was THAT part of me that was truly unhappy. The part of me that wasn't being fully open and honest!

If you always tell the truth, you never have to explain yourself when questions are asked and accusations are thrown about. Since openly admitting that “Yes, I love women”, I am fully and publicly exploring a side of me that I had kept hidden. Just that admission lifted a weight from my shoulders! One of my career goals is to inspire and motivate others. By sharing my story, I hope I will inspire someone to go for their own happiness.


If you would like to submit a question to SHARE THE LOVE, send an email to BlacktopiaBusiness@gmail.com with SHARE THE LOVE QUESTION in the subject line.

PeaceLoveHappiness
Lm...

Polyamorous and striving to be Permanently Positive, Lea Mishell is a wife, mother of 3, and an author of urban fairy tales and erotica. Her works can be found at www.leanpub.com/b/TheLeaMishellCollection

SHARE THE LOVE is published exclusively for Blacktopia.org





Connect with Lea Mishell
Author, Columnist, Publisher, Motivator:
about.me/leamishellink 
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SistaGirlzAuthorLeaMishell
Twitter: https://twitter.com/SistaGirlzBooks
Blog: https://LeaMishellAuthor.wordpress.com
Smashwords Interview:   https://www.smashwords.com/interview/LeaMishell
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Books: https://leanpub.com/b/TheLeaMishellCollection
SHARE THE LOVE (polyamory column): http://www.blacktopia.org/
Paperback campaign: https://www.gofundme.com/SistaGirlzPaperback

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Check out old shows athttp://www.blogtalkradio.com/PodcastsOnDemand

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The controversial single that has social media talking is now available on iTunes!  Gunz & Ammo's "Fuck The Police" is here and available for purchase at the direct iTunes link below.  
https://itunes.apple.com/us/album/f**k-the-police-single/id1142851253

Share The Love: Loving Freely or Freely F**king?? (by Lea Mishell)

SHARE THE LOVE
Loving Freely or Freely F**king??
by Lea Mishell









Hello Loves!!

As you all know, I'm fairly new to my openly polyamorous life so what I'm sharing with you are lessons that I have learned during my poly journey.

Early on when I first came out as bisexual and openly poly, people just assumed that my open marriage means that my husband and I are gonna sleep with every woman we meet.  Living a poly life doesn't mean every day is a big fuck fest.  In fact, being poly and OPP (One Penis Policy) makes us scrutinize our potential women more closely.  Because we both love freely, we always protect ourselves and our partners.  LOVE is an emotion you shouldn't play with.  If all we wanted was just sex, we would be swingers but we're not looking for a sexual partner. We want a woman we can grow and build a life with, supporting each other's talents to make us all better.  There are some people in the poly community posing as poly while they figure out how (and IF) they fit in the lifestyle. 


Simply having “bisexual” on my dating profile has introduced me to people that assume I'm/we're into BDSM and swinging.  Some are into Relationship Anarchy and Solo Poly where they just do things their own way as long as THEY are satisfied.  Personally, I am not ready to label my poly as I'm still learning all there is to know. I know I want a girlfriend for Hubby and me. I know I want a Lady for myself that doesn't have to be with Hubby but she can be if he and she so choose.  I don't want to be restricted and I don't want to restrict my Loves.  How can I be poly if I'm directing everyone on how to love each other?



For more polyamory terminology, check out the MORE THAN TWO website: https://www.morethantwo.com/polyglossary.html
















PeaceLoveHappiness
Lm...

Polyamorous and striving to be Permanently Positive, Lea Mishell is a wife, mother of 3, and an author of urban fairy tales and erotica. Her works can be found at www.leanpub.com/b/TheLeaMishellCollection

SHARE THE LOVE is written and published exclusively for Blacktopia.org

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withBLACKTOPIA!  E-mail us 

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every Tuesday Night at 9:00 PM EST!

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Barbara the Cuntry Cleaning Lady,

Some Guy Named Jay and Ms. Marie Jones

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The controversial single that has social media talking is now available on iTunes!  Gunz & Ammo's "Fuck The Police" is here and available for purchase at the direct iTunes link below.  
https://itunes.apple.com/us/album/f**k-the-police-single/id1142851253

Share The Love: YOUR LOVER'S OTHER LOVER(S) by Lea Mishell

Share the Love:  YOUR LOVER'S OTHER LOVER(S)
by Lea Mishell

Something's not quite right. You sense that something is different about your mate. Maybe you're one of the lucky ones that gets the improved version of your lover only to see that effort being made for someone else. How is that lucky for you?! They weren't a full on asshole about it. They could've picked a stupid fight with you to give them the excuse to leave the house. Either way, you have the sinking feeling that your lover has another love elsewhere.

Now what do you do?! Do you gather evidence and confront your mate? Do you go off on them and have the mother of all blowouts? Or do you ask if you can join them...

Yes. That's right. I said it!

All of the tension, anger and anxiety that comes from cheating and being cheated on will never be good for anyone. As a person that believes in the power of Positivity, I try to rethink everything until everything is positive. Look at your situation differently. Your mate's other lover can be a benefit for you! Let your mate know that you know (or suspect) that he/she is involved with someone else and that you need to know why this other person is needed. You never know until you ask and you may find yourself in a new type of relationship. Your mate's friend could be everything you are and then some! He/she could be someone your mate can talk to without fear of judgment or they might do all of the freaky things you won't do! You won't know until you ask!

Now back to the other lover. Let's assume your mate reveals that in fact there is someone of interest but they haven't approached this new person because your mate wants you to know about them! What do you do? Listen quietly and put yourself in your mate's shoes to understand that although they love you, they need MORE. And you're only one person so why not share the work of keeping your mate happy? Who knows? Your mate's friend might like you too!! Do you know what that means?? You can have a new homie lover friend for yourself! Whether you want to involve yourself personally with your mate's lover is your choice but no matter what, your lover should feel comfortable enough to tell you anything and everything. And what kind of a relationship do you have if you can't tell your mate EVERYTHING?! Not a good one, in my opinion. Whether you are just dating or married, monogamous or polyamorous, honesty and trust are key to any relationship.

Polyamorous and striving to be Permanently Positive, Lea Mishell is a wife, mother at 3, and an author of urban fairy tales and erotica. Her works can be found at www.leanpub.com/b/TheLeaMishellCollection 

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Speaking of "Sharing The Love" listen to the SIDE DUDE anthem of 2016 by Fa'Ness titled "I Already Know"!  Check out the official video for the single here at this link https://youtu.be/3vzzDIJof6Q