SHARE THE LOVE: "This Time Last Year" (by Lea Mishell)

SHARE THE LOVE
"This Time Last Year 2016"
by Lea Mishell

Hello Loves!! If you've been following along with my journey, thank you. Trust me, it has been QUITE the rollercoaster ride!

This time last year, I was preparing for my first Christmas without my mother (rest in Heaven, Mama) and my marriage had faced it's toughest challenge up to that point: our first full year of openly polyamorous love. As the year came to an end, my only aspiration for 2016 was simply to see 2017. I'm not sure what I did to piss Karma off but she repaid me big time in 2015 so all I wanted to do was just get through 2016 with half as much of the BS we went through in 2015! I should've asked for more or been more specific but I didn't want to get greedy and ask for, oh I don't know... PeaceLoveHappiness!! 

First of all, my apologies for my absence as I celebrated my birthday rather differently this year. I believe I began shortly after I became a mother but for the longest time, I've celebrated the entire month of November as many a friend and family member would offer “belated…” greetings so I decided to give everyone an extension in case they didn't catch me on the 2nd. Ever since I met Hubby, he has always done something memorable for my birthdays and our special occasions. This year, he topped them all: his new job offer allowed me to quit my PayJob and we relocated to the west coast! No more stomach churning workdays! No more harsh snowy arctic winters! The Universe has been working everything in our favor for our family to have a well deserved reset to achieve all of our dreams! Of course, in reality, I'll still have to have a baby PayJob (part-time job) until I'm a BEST-SELLING AUTHOR (buy my books please and thanks) but admittedly last year I would not believe I would be writing this post from Sin City!!! Last time I was here was for my 7th wedding anniversary. Now I live just 4 hours and 20 minutes from Hollywood! My creative juices are flowing and I'm ready for my close up!!! Author. Screenwriter. Director. Let's watch my resume grow!!!

Now you may be wondering how this has anything to do with love or polyamory or relationships. Well, this has EVERYTHING to do with a deeply embedded love that grows stronger each day my husband and I travel forward through life together. From the moment we met, our life has been smoother when we've worked together toward a shared goal. Our polyamorous desire to love others freely includes us and we both want each other to be successful. He wants to see me become a full-time author and I want him to be an activist. We both want to be entrepreneurs. Hence, our marriage continues to thrive through our joint efforts to improve ourselves as a couple as well as individually. I'm not saying that love will fix everything but it has definitely kept us together through good times and bad.

This time next year, we'll resume our annual New Year's Eve parties (who wouldn't want to be in Vegas for the holidays??) and you will be holding a paperback copy of my books. My aspirations for 2017: continue to work toward being more positive while sharing uplifting vibes with the world; increase my readership through personal interactions; love on my Husband and Loves as much as the Universe will allow!

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PeaceLoveHappiness
Lm...

Polyamorous and striving to be PERMANENTLY POSITIVE, Lea Mishell is a wife, mother of 3, and an author of urban fairy tales and erotica. Her works can be found at www.leanpub.com/b/TheLeaMishellCollection



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Share The Love: "Living My Truth" (by Lea Mishell)

SHARE THE LOVE
Living In My Truth
by Lea Mishell

Hello Loves!! First let me say thank you to those of you that have been supporting any and everything I've been doing. Whether it's the lessons interwoven into my books or the journey I've been sharing here in this column, I know I am blessed to help uplift EVERYONE and I want ALL OF US to be happy! As you know, writing is one of my passions so I am thankful for this opportunity to share my love (pun intended lol) with all of you!

One thing I've been adjusting to is being transparent in my non-polyamorous relationships. Prior to my marriage, although my thoughts were polyamorous, my actions were not always the most honorable. On the surface, I looked like your typical heterosexual single mother, doing the best she can without a man of her own. During that time in my life, men were simply a physical release from the stress of my life. Since I covered everything else financially/mentally/socially/spiritually for myself, I didn't want or need a boyfriend when all I needed was sexual maintenance. I wasn't out of the closet yet so no one knew of the occasional lady friend. But I was extremely uncomfortable! Part of me knew that something wasn't right! Why wasn't I happy with my many loves? Because they were my secrets and, for some, I was their side piece. It was THAT part of me that was truly unhappy. The part of me that wasn't being fully open and honest!

If you always tell the truth, you never have to explain yourself when questions are asked and accusations are thrown about. Since openly admitting that “Yes, I love women”, I am fully and publicly exploring a side of me that I had kept hidden. Just that admission lifted a weight from my shoulders! One of my career goals is to inspire and motivate others. By sharing my story, I hope I will inspire someone to go for their own happiness.


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PeaceLoveHappiness
Lm...

Polyamorous and striving to be Permanently Positive, Lea Mishell is a wife, mother of 3, and an author of urban fairy tales and erotica. Her works can be found at www.leanpub.com/b/TheLeaMishellCollection

SHARE THE LOVE is published exclusively for Blacktopia.org





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Share The Love: YOUR LOVER'S OTHER LOVER(S) by Lea Mishell

Share the Love:  YOUR LOVER'S OTHER LOVER(S)
by Lea Mishell

Something's not quite right. You sense that something is different about your mate. Maybe you're one of the lucky ones that gets the improved version of your lover only to see that effort being made for someone else. How is that lucky for you?! They weren't a full on asshole about it. They could've picked a stupid fight with you to give them the excuse to leave the house. Either way, you have the sinking feeling that your lover has another love elsewhere.

Now what do you do?! Do you gather evidence and confront your mate? Do you go off on them and have the mother of all blowouts? Or do you ask if you can join them...

Yes. That's right. I said it!

All of the tension, anger and anxiety that comes from cheating and being cheated on will never be good for anyone. As a person that believes in the power of Positivity, I try to rethink everything until everything is positive. Look at your situation differently. Your mate's other lover can be a benefit for you! Let your mate know that you know (or suspect) that he/she is involved with someone else and that you need to know why this other person is needed. You never know until you ask and you may find yourself in a new type of relationship. Your mate's friend could be everything you are and then some! He/she could be someone your mate can talk to without fear of judgment or they might do all of the freaky things you won't do! You won't know until you ask!

Now back to the other lover. Let's assume your mate reveals that in fact there is someone of interest but they haven't approached this new person because your mate wants you to know about them! What do you do? Listen quietly and put yourself in your mate's shoes to understand that although they love you, they need MORE. And you're only one person so why not share the work of keeping your mate happy? Who knows? Your mate's friend might like you too!! Do you know what that means?? You can have a new homie lover friend for yourself! Whether you want to involve yourself personally with your mate's lover is your choice but no matter what, your lover should feel comfortable enough to tell you anything and everything. And what kind of a relationship do you have if you can't tell your mate EVERYTHING?! Not a good one, in my opinion. Whether you are just dating or married, monogamous or polyamorous, honesty and trust are key to any relationship.

Polyamorous and striving to be Permanently Positive, Lea Mishell is a wife, mother at 3, and an author of urban fairy tales and erotica. Her works can be found at www.leanpub.com/b/TheLeaMishellCollection 

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